The Bustle in a House
The Bustle in a House
The Morning after Death
Is solemnest of industries
Enacted upon Earth –
The Sweeping up the Heart
And putting Love away
We shall not want to use again
Until Eternity –
This was not the post I was expecting to write this week, but then life never goes quite like you plan. My mom passed away last Tuesday. She was in her 90s and getting weaker and more frail these past few months, so we knew she wouldn't be around much longer, but it was still a shock to come home from work on Tuesday and find her gone. Such a wrenching loss. But even in death there are still things to be glad and grateful for. I'm glad her death was peaceful and painless...to die in her sleep was what she wanted. And she's with my dad, who passed away seven years ago, once more. And that also makes me glad.
My mom always viewed death as a kind of graduation...a returning home to our Father in Heaven after finishing this test of life. And I am very grateful for the knowledge and belief I have that there is life after death. That our loved ones are not lost to us forever. That families can be together for all eternity. And that I will see my mom and dad again someday. Though that doesn't keep me from missing them now, or stop the tears from coming. It's hard, but I know it will be okay. And if I'm not around much these next few weeks, you know the reason why.
Oh Lark, I'm so sorry for your heart-breaking loss. Although we know it might be coming, nothing ever properly prepares us. My thoughts are with you and your family, and I hope it's comfort to know that your mom and dad are now together again.
ReplyDeleteDeath is always such a wrenching separation. It's been a struggle, but the thought of my mom and dad together again does help. Thank you for your kind concern.
DeleteLark, I'm so sorry about your Mom's passing. Wish you were near and I could give you a hug. It's a tough season, even when we know it is coming and even when we know that our loved ones are together again and will be waiting for us in the end. Please do take good care of yourself. Know that you are loved and appreciated here. I will pray for peace and comfort for you and your family. 'Eternal JOY' is indeed waiting for us.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Kay! I appreciate your love and support. I do wish my mom had waited until after Christmas! ;D Talk about putting a damper on the holiday.
DeleteOh, I'm so sorry to hear this, Lark. I'm thinking of you and your family. Take care.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Helen! I appreciate that.
DeleteI’m so sorry. My deepest condolences.
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DeleteOh no! I'm so sorry for your loss, Lark! I'll be praying for you! 🙏🏻
ReplyDeletePrayers are always welcome. Thank you, Ashley!
DeleteOh no. I'm so sorry Lark. It is heartbreaking losing a parent and your Mom ... very difficult. Pls know our thoughts are with you. I lost my parents too in 2024 & 2025 ... and it's been really hard. I'm glad she passed peacefully and lived a long life. Take a breather.
ReplyDeleteI keep thinking Mom will know the answer, I'll ask Mom...only she's not here to ask any more. It's so hard. But I'm glad to know she's at peace and with my dad. I just miss her.
DeleteLark, I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss. I know how hard this is and it just really is the worst heartbreak. Just remember to take care of you. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Nadia! I know you know how this feels. Missing a parent and feeling the loss of their presence is so hard, especially this time of year. Thank you for your kind words.
DeleteI am sorry for your loss. Hugs
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DeleteSo sorry to hear about your mom. That's tough. At least she went out well it sounds like. That's a comfort.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad she wasn't sick or in pain and that we didn't have to take her to the hospital. Going in your sleep is a very peaceful way to die, and I am glad she went that way.
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear that. My condolences.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Mary!
DeleteOh Lark - I'm sorry to hear this. And what a beautiful post about loss. I'm so glad your mother went peacefully and has graduated and that you will see her again. But like you said it doesn't make it easier. Take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteIt's such a big loss, but I am grateful to know where she is and that she's with my dad and not struggling with the indignities of old age any more. But oh I miss her!
DeleteOh Lark, I am so sorry!! I think no matter how old our parents get, we are not ready for them to go. Sending virtual hugs and prayers your way.
ReplyDeleteNO. You are never ready to be without your mom or dad. I keep thinking I don't know what to do...I'll ask mom...and I can't. It's hard. Thank you for your prayers and hugs.
DeleteI'm so sorry for your loss, Lark. I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers and hope that you'll find comfort and peace as you grieve. I'm going to my second funeral of the week on Friday. They definitely make me thankful for our beliefs in eternal lives and eternal families. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteWhat would we do without a knowledge of eternal families and life after death??? I'm so grateful for the gospel and for our Savior. Thank you for your prayers and hugs!
DeleteRight? I find so much comfort and peace in the doctrines of the Gospel. Families are forever. I also really love that Uchtdorf quote. It's so true.
DeleteLark, I am so sorry for your loss. The passing of our parents is such a deep moment with a profound impact. May your mother's memory be a blessing for you always.
ReplyDeleteThank you! I'm grateful that I have so many loving and happy memories of her. They definitely help when I'm feeling sad.
DeleteI'm so sorry for your loss, Lark. My parents are in their late 80s so it's something I think about constantly. I hope you find some peace in the coming months.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! It's been hard, but I'm so grateful she died so peacefully and that she's with my dad again. That helps ease the aching sadness of being without her.
DeleteI am so sorry Lark about your Mom. It is always a shock but I am glad it was peaceful and the good memories you have with your Mom remain forever. And it's so important to have faith.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what I would do without my faith and belief in God and Jesus Christ and that there is more to life than here on earth. It's what gets me through the grief and loss.
DeleteSending you all my love and condolences! As hard as losing her is, what a blessing that she had such a peaceful passing.
ReplyDeleteIt was such a blessing! We are so glad she went that way; it's what she wanted. She had a fear of hospitals and being bedridden or having to go to a care center, so the fact that we could keep her home and comfortable and happy means the world.
DeleteI am sad about your loss of your mother, but I think all of us want to pass that way, peacefully. My dad will be 99 next week, and I think of his passing a lot. I hope he will have a peaceful one.
ReplyDeleteI hope so, too. My dad died of stage 4 stomach cancer and his death was not peaceful. Going in your sleep is the best way. Best wishes to you and your dad!
DeleteI am so sorry for your loss! I'm happy your mom at least died a peaceful death. Even with faith, it still hurts to lose someone. Sending virtual hugs your way!
ReplyDeleteIt does hurt, even though I truly believe she's fine and happy. But I don't think you ever get over losing your mom. Thanks for the hugs!
DeleteI'm so sorry for your loss. Death is hard especially around the holidays but I'm so glad she is with your dad and passed peacefully.
ReplyDeleteI'm very glad they're together, but oh I miss them both!
DeleteLark, I am so sorry for your loss. It is especially hard to lose a parent. This is a beautiful post for your mother, and a very hopeful one too. Both of my parents passed away years ago but I still often wish I could talk to them about something that has happened.
ReplyDeleteIt never goes away does it, that longing to talk something over with your mom or your dad.
DeleteMissing them is so natural and automatic, and that's okay. I love that both you and your mom have faith and belief in the life after, it will help you deal with the grief, but you will never stop missing them. 🤗
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